Do you ever find yourself stuck in a negative place, worrying that things won’t get any better (or even that they will get worse)? Or, have you ever had things going so well in your life that you just knew it wouldn’t last? If you’re anything like me and most of the people I know , your answer to both of these questions would be, of course, “yes.”
Many of us seem to forget that there is a natural ebb and flow to life, especially when things get challenging, stressful, or scary. Right now, there is a lot of agreement in our world about how “bad” things are – particularly in relation to the economy. And while I do believe it is essential for us to confront things in life directly and not put our heads in the sand, it seems that many of us (myself included at times) tend to forget an important truth about life…this too shall pass.
Ironically, this same phenomenon is also true when things are “good”. Life constantly evolves and changes…nothing stays constant. We waste so much of our precious time and energy worrying about things, instead of appreciating and embracing them in the moment. Worrying that bad times won’t pass (which they mostly do) or that good times won’t last (which they mostly never do) takes us out of the present moment and causes us to suffer, miss out, or both.
You or some of the people around you may be experiencing significant pain or challenge right now – based on the economic situations or other factors. Or, you may currently be experiencing a great deal of success, opportunity, and joy in your life. At some level, most of us experience a certain amount of real joy and real pain all the time.
Whatever our current experience of life may be, it always serves us to remember that things are in a constant state of flux and that whatever is going on in our lives right now, will pass. As difficult as this is for each of us to remember, especially when we’re scared, it can be a powerful reminder and an important mantra that we hold onto and share with others as a way to keep things in perspective.
Here are a few things you can do to enhance your ability to stay present, grounded, and grateful – regardless of the external circumstances in your life.
– Count Your Blessings –
Whatever is going on in your life, no matter how “good” or “bad” things may seem; there are always many things for us to be grateful for. Take some time right now to think about or write down some of the many blessings in your life. And, as a bonus you can share them with others today and this week.
– Support Others –
Reminding others that things can and will get better (if they’re tough) and that it’s important to appreciate and enjoy what is happening (if things are going well), is a great way to remind ourselves, get out of our own head, and be in service. When we support others, we also support ourselves in a healthy and generous way. And, our authentic support to other people helps make sure we don’t spend and waste time feeling sorry for ourselves or getting too caught up in our own narcissism.
– Reflect on Your Past in a Positive Way – Think back to times in your own life when you’ve overcome challenges and/or created great success and fulfillment. Remembering that we’ve had tough times and risen above them and that we’ve been able to appreciate ourselves, our lives, and our success can help us remember how strong and capable we are in the present moment. Allow your past to empower you!
-Stay in the present moment –
Staying present is a simple concept and something many of us know about, however, it’s much easier to understand than it is to practice.
What if we stayed in the present moment, embraced it, and chose to live our lives there as much as possible? We could eliminate lots of needless suffering, stress, and anxiety.
Something simple, but powerful that Eckart Tolle in his book The New Earth, keeps saying is that “the access point is in the present moment.”
When and if we can actually be present in this very moment, we have access to peace, love, joy, transformation, connection, healing, beauty, and anything else we want to experience in our lives. Instead of working “hard” to get to some destination out in the future, we can experience fulfillment right now if we appreciate THIS moment.
Take a moment right now as you read this, stop and look around, and pay attention to this very moment in time. When we do this, anything and everything is possible.
161 years ago, Abraham Lincoln said “And this, too, shall pass away”. The world was in a different place, but the phrase transcends time and situation.
Lincoln was not the first to say this phrase. The phrase is an old Persian adage. Carried down over the years and retold by various individuals, from Rumi, to Edward FitzGerald, to Lincoln. Words have the power to make you, break you and these words ‘And this, too, shall pass away.’ How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction!”
This article is about the present. About right here and right now. What can we do in the days of today in order to get us to the days of tomorrow. This moment that you are facing will pass away. Bringing in a new path, a new tomorrow filled with the warmth of your embraces, your soul intertwined with love. But that time will pass away as well. So the importance falls to us. It is in this moment that you feel alive , you feel loved and all the warmth within you. It is in this moment that will define your tomorrow. You will face hardships, you will face moments that will nearly break you, but you will continue to endure them, and you will continue to rise.
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